Promises

Promises are presumed to be mechanisms for creating commitments that foster greater cooperation and trust. Promises revolve around the function to promote collaboration and trust through a voluntary commitment to a future action. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. From the time we are old enough to make a promise, we are capable of breaking a promise. People make vows to build relationships, establish personal worth, or sometimes as a way to express vague intentions rather than firm commitments.  

          Here’s the thing. Reasons for broken promises range from self-delusion and over-commitment to deeper psychological issues like an avoidant attachment issue or even fear of inadequacy. Understanding this complexity helps us set realistic expectations and communicate effectively, preventing disappointment and strengthening relationships. 

          Promises are a fundamental human mechanism for cooperation, while signaling intentions and fostering trust. Keeping one’s word is regarded as a reflection of one’s character, honor, and integrity, affirming personal worth and reliability. A pledge can be made to make someone else feel at ease, happy, or to score points by appearing to care. Sometimes, people make promises to make themselves feel more worthy, capable, or obligated, even if they struggle with keeping their commitments. 

            Most people with good intentions may genuinely intend to keep a promise, but cannot predict their own limitations, resources, or time constraints. A person might make commitments without realistically assessing their own schedule and responsibilities, which can lead to an inability to deliver. Sometimes, people can’t differentiate between vague intentions and firm commitments and make promises that are specific to ensure both parties have clear

 expectations. Remember that failing to keep a vow is equivalent to disrespecting yourself, ultimately harming your own self-image, self-esteem, and overall well-being, as well as the person to whom your vow was intended. 

These I Can Promise

I cannot promise you a life of sunshine

I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold

I cannot promise you an easy pathway

that leads away from change or growing old

But I can promise all my heart & devotion

A smile to chase away your tears and sorrow

 A love that’s ever true and ever growing

A hand to hold in your through each tomorrow

 -Mark Twain (1835-1910)

One last thought:

“Don’t let your mouth write a check that your tail can’t cash“

Bo Diddley

Blessing dear friends,